The Bridge Program: Burlington High School
This month, our module theme is centered around family dynamics and the different roles we each play within a family. Families are not democracies. Each family has its own ways of deciding who has the power and authority within the family unit, and which rights, privileges, obligations, and roles are assigned to each family member. What are examples of roles? (think: provider, $ maker, housekeeper, cleans, cooks, makes decisions, etc).
During the module, each student was given a card with the following question: "What do you like best about your family?" There were a number of responses throughout the day reflecting different outlooks of family and when their family is at their best.
Our favorite modules are the modules that include FOOD! We placed a napkin and a small donut in front of each student. They were not able to eat or touch the donut during the exercise. The students were asked to describe the donut to someone who has never seen one. Most students explained the hole in the middle of their donut as part of their description. In this exercise, the hole in the donut represents all of the things we see wrong in our families, we tend to focus on the missing or negative parts first - and we are all guilty of that at some point in our lives!
The majority of the students shared that the best part of the donut is the cake... and that there is a lot more cake than there is hole! We discussed that in our homes, we need to look for the positive things happening. The students are part of the cake, and that is the part that really counts! We tend to find what we look for. Isn't it better to focus on what you have instead of what is missing and/or something you can't change? A positive outlook can change the entire mood of a home and/or the people who live there! What we really need to enjoy about our families is not the HOLE but the WHOLE!